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They may become concerned as to why the person who they desire with all of their soul has a need to be alone.

They ask themselves, what could they have done wrong. If she/he is upset, why doesn’t he/she want me to be with them? Often times when one half of a couple states that they need to be left alone, it has nothing to do with the other half of the couple.

The person does not need to be left alone because of what the other one has said or done. Matter of fact, it probably has nothing to do with you at all.

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Even in the closest of relationships, each person at times needs space. Even as a couple, we are still two individuals and to grow as a couple, we must also be permitted to grow as an individual.

I believe that some people get caught up in their romantic view of a long term relationship and believe that soul mates must desire to be with each other all of the time.

Often times, this thought of being together every moment is perpetuated by the way we initially feel when we make that unique connection with the person whom we view as our soul mate.

As a couple, it is natural to desire to be with each other whenever it is possible to be together.

Unfortunately, this is not what the other person sees when they hear from the one they love that they want to be left alone for a while.

Their ego gets bruised and they take the other person’s need to be alone as an affront to them and, in doing so, insist on not allowing the other person to have some space without first grilling them as to why they need their space.

This grilling in turn upsets the person who needs space and creates a bigger problem than first existed ,which often escalates into a disagreement, hurt feelings, etc.

I believe it is natural for us to desire to share our lives fully with each other and be joined at the hip.

The caveat to this is that even while we have a desire to be with each other all the time, we also must understand that there are times when one person or both will need to have time to be alone.

This may seem very logical to many who read this, however when one person in a relationship tells the other person that they need to be alone, the other person often feels offended.

The offended person’s ego gets in the way, they often feel hurt.

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