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Despite the fact that things may look alright on the surface, this is a extraordinarily screwed up situation, and I speak from experience.
The older guy is worried that the younger guy is totally out of his league in terms of looks and youthfulness, and might one day will want to date someone his own age, not his father’s.
All this, of course, is in addition to the obvious logistical problems of age mismatched dating. The younger guy is probably going to have more energy and better health.
The older guy may be completely un-presentable to the younger guy’s parents.
Creepy old guys dating young guys is a very common phenomena in the gay world.
While no one knows exactly how common it is, it seems like every third couple you see on the street is age mismatched to a visible degree.
Probably because there’s a dearth of date-able gay guys out there, some young guys fall prey to an older gay guy who, because he’s more experienced, works his charms on the younger guy to the point where both parties think they’re in a real, committed relationship.
It’s a symbiotic relationship whereby the young guy gets emotional support and stability that’s almost impossible to find in other young gay guys, and the older guy gets a younger, sexier partner he can wear like a trophy.
All is fine and dandy, except that both parties are deluding themselves, and sooner or later one of the two will pull their heads out of the sand (generally the younger guy, who has way more options) and the whole thing will fall apart. A lot of younger guys have no money because they’re working at Starbucks and/or studying some dead-end major in college.
The younger guy doesn’t truly want an creepy older man (who could be his father) as a boyfriend or partner. He’s clinging to papa because he’s frustrated and emotionally bruised, and papa offers safety and comfort. The ones who have two dimes to rub together are often cocky and overly career-focused, perhaps to compensate for their broken childhoods or just the shame of being homosexual. They offer a mature emotional perspective and having been through the struggles of being a young homosexual, can offer guidance to a young gay man that no one else can.
It also doesn’t hurt that they’re willing to foot the bill for nice dinners, opera tickets, and vacations to Europe. The younger guy is worried that the older guy will replace him with a younger model, particularly as time passes.
The richer the older guy, the more vulnerable is the younger guy to replacement.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating